Confusingly, the Left seems to offer libertinism and the freedom to gratify desires of almost any description without compunction; drugs, random sex, prancing around naked, dressing up as cartoons in cosplay, you name it. However, if your desire is to be a normal family man or woman, then you are a target for the most puritanical and judgmental hatred. This has been going on for a long time. Feminists were encouraged by people like Simone de Beauvoir to regard wives who had children and cared for them themselves as despicable. People with the most far-out “identities” want to be regarded as normal and to be accepted. Some older old-fashioned homosexuals used to actually like the “transgressive” aspect of “forbidden love” and wanted nothing to do with normalization and gay marriage, by analogy with an accidental happenstance peek down a blouse versus the bare-it-all boredom of a bikini.
So, there is this strange desire for the mainstreaming of everything, and making everything normal, except the actually normal – the people who have been normal all along – who are now considered abnormal and unacceptable. The word “normal” is regarded as oppressive, while the aberrant aspire to be the new normal. There is still an ingroup and an outgroup; they have just switched places.
Supposedly, it is still acceptable to be a straight, white, male if this person relentlessly apologizes for his existence and bemoans his lack of diversity. It remains unnecessary for Jeff Bezos to step down and get himself replaced by a woman of color; so far at least. This is unfortunate if one happens to have sworn off identity-based self-hatred some decades ago. There is a rich irony in a white mother reposting an article criticizing the number of successful white prominent men, while one of her own white sons struggles in a pizza delivery job in his mid-twenties.
Others are expected to have “pride” in their sexual orientation, but not the heterosexual, despite the fact that, as Allan Bloom put it, the male and female “point” to the other. To a space alien, human anatomy and reproduction would not seem to make much sense until the opposite sex came into view.