Divorce is a gesture that implements and urges demographic and political suicide. It is an expression of self-hatred; of the will to delete the patrimony inherent in oneself, and to prevent people such as oneself from peopling the future.
It explodes the family, which is the basic organ both of the political order and of the biological population. It teaches children (no matter how old) that in the authoritative judgement of their parents, the atomic building block of society is not after all concretely real, but is rather a mere fiction of convention. What is not real needn’t be reckoned, let alone honored; indeed, ought not to be either reckoned, or honored. After all, it is insane to order one’s life under the constraints of a thing that has in itself no concrete reality.
So the children of divorce do not recognize marriage as a real, as a concrete entity with a mind of its own, and interests of its own, supervenient upon those of husband and wife qua individuals; they do not therefore respect it, or care for its life. They undertake to marry as if they were only each other’s customers, who might either take their custom elsewhere, should a better deal hove into view.
They do not, that is to say, validly marry in the first place. They rather shack up for a time under what they themselves construe as a fundamentally specious cover of marriage, and foster therefore a Potemkin Village of a family. The family becomes a mere game, its parties engaged in Live Action Role Play gaming.
So you get big opulent weddings, followed most of the time by big opulent sordid divorces.
Divorce then spreads, like a plague. That spread more and more seems to verify the assertion implicit in divorce, that marriage is irreal. And it worsens the prospects of marriage, by a radical increase in its rate of failure. So there are fewer marriages; fewer even of superficial, specious marriages. People stop bothering with it. A vicious cycle begins, and amplifies. Fertility crashes; the population prone to divorce eventually follows, leaving behind only those resistant to the pathology.
Whence the self-hatred that’s back of divorce? Whence the impulse to demographic suicide?
If like most moderns you believe that life has no inherent meaning, is about nothing, and has no ultimate (or therefore ultimately real) purpose, then it is crazy to act as though you credited life with some meaning and purpose. If there is no point to life, why bother to reproduce?
Divorce, then, is a downstream sequela of the loss of faith: faith in God, faith in his people and their nations, faith in the goodness and meaningfulness of life, faith in the ultimate righteousness and excellence of virtuous acts, faith in the existence and goodness and pleasure of virtue, faith in the obligations of duty and honor.
If nothing matters ultimately, then in the final analysis nothing matters proximally. There is then no point in deferring gratification for the sake of some future – a fortiori, for the sake of futures of the lives of others, especially when they are as yet unborn. To defer present concrete and immediate gratification for the sake of values that do not ultimately exist would be madness – like burning money.
If marriage, family, society, nation, people, patrimony are all meaningless – about nothing, and amounting in the end to nothing – then it is foolish to sacrifice for their sake.
So you get faster and faster regress toward the zero of them all.
This is why there must be a Great Awakening if the West is to be saved. If the cults are all incredible, so then are their cultures, and no one will believe in them, much less sacrifice for them. So, atheist Reaction is a start, in that it is red pilled; but, unbaptized it is stillborn, bootless, moot. Lacking the allure of adventure both important and everlasting, it boils down to a meaningless life-style preference, a hobby like Civil War Re-enactment or World of Warcraft.
First God; then, and only then, all other things. Even given only the mere definition of “God” – that than which no greater can be conceived, by any mind – how could it possibly be otherwise?
If you are yourself divorced, don’t beat yourself up about all this. You’re a sinner. Nothing special about that; get over yourself.
Repent of your unbelief, and of your sins that contributed to your divorce, and of your divorce. Confess, do your penance, accept the grace of redemption, and move ahead in holiness and righteousness before God. What’s the alternative?
What if you are an atheist who wants to believe that life is important and valuable? What if you are an atheist who finds that life *just is* important and valuable? What if you have no way of repenting, because you are an atheist?
Well, your problem is atheism. If you don’t fix that, you are basically and totally screwed. So, best get to work figuring out what you’ve gotten wrong.
The one thing of which you can be absolutely certain, after all – the one thing in which you can have unshakeable faith – is that you’ve gotten something wrong.