If you could heal yourself, you’d already have done it.
You need help.
A teacher or therapist, a spiritual director or guru or sensei, a confessor or coach may certainly help. But at most such men can lead the horse to water, and nothing more. In the end, to be healed, you need to go ahead and drink the Living Water. This is the acceptance of supernatural help.
The acceptance of spiritual help is an implicit admission that the help is needed; that you are powerless to fix yourself; and that you have therefore stepped back from trying, and put your life in the hands of God.
You don’t have to understand the Faith in order to practice it, and to succeed thereat (although it can help). All you need to do is practice.
That doesn’t mean just going through the motions dumbly. It means fully intending by each prayer exactly what the Church intends by it, whatever that might be. It means honest prayer, that is honestly and truly intended toward the end of the prayer, and attentive thereto.
You don’t need even to understand the intention of the prayer. It is good enough just to say to yourself, as you begin to pray, “I intend by this prayer what the Church intends by it, whatever that might be.” If you practice it honestly and steadily, the praxis will begin to bear fruit; until eventually, you reach your goal.
It will begin to work; and then your eyes will be opened, and you will begin to understand the Faith that you had been professing with your acts, despite your ignorance of what it was.
This was Pascal’s method.
It works because it depends – quite consciously and intentionally – not on the paltry resources of the one who prays, but upon the infinite riches of God. You don’t need to know where the door is, or what to ask; all you need to do is knock, and ask. You do not, after all, know where exactly you are, or what precisely it is that you are about. But that does not matter; for, he does.
But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.