That’s the title of an excellent post by Steve Hays of Triablogue. The post is so good and so succinct that I’m quoting it in its entirety:
Homosexual men are unmanly. They suffer from a manhood deficit. Something in their social formation went awry. Some psychologists trace this to a dysfunctional father/son relationship.
That’s not necessarily incurable. Not necessarily something be ashamed of. Many adults suffer from aftereffects of inadequate parenting. And in many cases, their parents were poor parents because their grandparents were poor parents. For many men and women, psychological maturation is a life-long game of catch-up.
Not only are homosexual men unmanly, but straight men who defend sodomite marriage are unmanly as well. Indeed, straight men who defend sodomite marriage carry on like sob sisters. It’s embarrassing to read.
Men have a duty to uphold basic standards of masculinity. To be good fathers, husbands, brothers, friends, and mentors. To be good role models for their sons and daughters. Or coaches, teachers, and scoutmasters. To set an example for the up-and-coming generation.
The manhood deficit is one result of rejecting God’s design for men and women.
Hays followed this post with another good one, “Ministering to homosexuals:”
How should the church minister to homosexuals? Nowadays it’s becoming a dilemma.
Ideally, homosexuals, or men who struggle with homosexual urges or sexual identity confusion, need straight male friends. Need natural normal male affection and camaraderie.
However, the homosexual community is making itself a threat to heteronormative standards. Passing laws that prosecute and persecute Christians who maintain Biblical standards of manhood and womanhood. Threatening their livelihood.
It’s like the insanely jealous psycho boyfriend (e.g. Mark Wahlberg in Fear) who stalks a girl in high school. When she tries to let him down gently, he turns vindictive.
How do you befriend someone whose bottom-line is: “Love me or die!” It would make it a lot easier if he put the gun down.
To oppose the forced legitimization of homosexuality is not to engage in “bashing.” [“Bashers” do exist; they have their own psychological disorders.] Instead, it is to love and encourage the good; in this case, proper masculinity. Men, especially we fathers, do have a duty to uphold basic standards of masculinity.
It is wicked to lie (and it is especially wicked for the authorities to lie) about things of fundamental importance such as the proper natures of love, sex and family. We should strive and pray for the reestablishment of a properly (or at least adequately) ordered society in which the authorities no longer lie about sex, as they currently do.